I’ve seen guys who flaunt their ‘manhood’ by abusing gals on the streets or public transport. That’s something really irritates me to the bits. They presume that there will be no opposition or protest. This is reason why such perverts don’t hesitate even in crowded places. Other people don’t retaliate ‘coz “It’s not my problem / business”. The thing that they don’t understand or turn a blind eye to is - tomorrow it can be their sister or friend or girl-friend.

And, I’ve got to say something on Laurie’s comment. These attitude of gals to depend on others, looking for support elsewhere is what’s pulling them down. If some pervert doesn’t back off just by shouting, U MUST hit back to teach him a lesson. Such buggers don’t learn it on their own. Gals must learn to drill it in the head of every looser so that they don’t attempt it again ever.

There’s just one part you got wrong: “If they don’t get it themselves, it’s your job to make them realize that they are wrong.” It is never the target’s job to educate the harasser. The harasser is entirely responsible for their own actions.

Your point is great — that speaking up loudly can work — but your phrasing is just another brick in the wall of male privilege. Telling women how it’s their job to educate men who don’t bother to educate themselves is part of the problem, not part of the solution.

I don’t think you meant it that way, so I just thought I’d drop you a heads-up so you could phrase your point better in the future.

Laurie from the USA